I need help making rules for my kids?

My husband and I have 6 kids.Four are from my previous relationship.We have a problem with our kids hitting each other.Calling each other names,teasing.They are also disrespectfull.We have rules about doing chores but they give us a hard time with it.Ive been going to parenting classes for 2 weeks ,but im still haveing a hard time trying 2 make rules.What should we do?

I need help making rules for my kids?
First of all I notice that "you" are taking parenting classes but the two of you have children.


You have to be on the same page as far as discipline. The two of you have to back each other up.


Be consistent in follow up. When you tell them to do their chores before they can play then stick to that, or you make a liar out of yourself.


The main thing is that they know that what you say is what you mean.
Reply:You need to be harsh and what you say goes. Discipline them, and go easier on them over time. Time outs, no snacks, taking away privilages are some ways to do this.
Reply:sit down...make up your own rules...you and your husband need to work together..that is all I can say.
Reply:Take all their stuff away. Empty their rooms to just beds and dressers. When they behave, they get stuff back.





I actually heard Dr. Phil advise this technique. You could research it some more at drphil.com in the parenting section.
Reply:U and your husband need 2 present a unified front against your kids numerical advantage!





Let them know that U are their parents and until they are 18 or have been emancipated your rules apply. If they refuse 2 follow the rules U have laid down come up with some appropriate punitive measures!





Best of parenting luck 2 the both of U!!





Timothy





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Reply:Whatever you do, do not resort to violence or hitting, it will make it worse.


Bravo on going to parenting classes and seeking help!


With my kids, who are now 19 and 22, it was all about reward system for chores. We used a chart so they could see it and stickers, after so many stickers ( they got them for doing chores) they got to do something like go to the zoo, stay up late, etc.


As far as hitting and teasing: teasing will always happen, it will get better, make sure it is only teasing and not verbal abuse. Tell them hitting is absolutley UNACCEPTABLE! It will result in consequences like priveleges taken away and loss of rewards. Again, use charts or pictures, kids react much better to things they can see! Like use smiley or sad faces depending on their behavior and actions. They will work hard to keep the smiley faces showing and not sad.


Also, depending on age of kids, there are a lot of good DVDs at the library that teach these things in a fun way that kids can understand. Look for winnie the pooh and friends, also the Berenstein bears books teach good things like this.


More tips and help can be gotten from pediatricians and school counselors.


Good Luck!