How do I ask for help without feeling disappointed from the help I'm given?

Perhaps my friend the problem is 2 fold, who you ask %26amp; what your is your true intention. Be selective on where %26amp; whom you seek advice. If you ask 50 different people you will get 50 different answers. A person really helps another when they show the other that all the answers that they need are within themselves. No one can fix another, but they can walk with you for a distance adding their strength to yours till you learn to find the strength %26amp; open door for yourself. Most important however is your real intent. Believe it or not, many of us can hide this from ourselves. Do I really seek help to change, or a caring ear to listen? If it is change it seek, then am I really ready %26amp; willing to go the distance, hear the tough answers %26amp; act on them? Being clear as to my intention to my self, it helps to make wiser decisions on who to ask for guidance, help, or just opinions.


Good luck to you!


Blessings!

How do I ask for help without feeling disappointed from the help I'm given?
Winnie the Pooh and Piglet were invited to Eeyore's birthday party. Pooh brought him a big pot of honey, Pooh's favorite. Piglet brought a shiny balloon, which he loved dearly. By the time they reached the front door or Eeyore's house, Pooh had eaten all the honey and Piglet had popped the balloon. Eeyore picked the broken balloon up and put it in the jar, then took it out and did it again.





"This is the best present I have ever gotten!" he said.





What we need is right in front of us if we stop viewing it as broken and empty.
Reply:This seems like a case of the general condition of having expectations about how life should be, and judging what life gives to us based on what we think we want. By releasing our expectations we can learn to lessen mental suffering and actually become more open to opportunities that present themselves to us.





Learning to accept the limitations of loved ones can help open us to wider sources for help, as well.





Don't mean to pontificate.... just my voice this morning.
Reply:Be prepared to not get the help you need. People always tell me that I'm a pessimist because of this philosophy that I have, but I'll let you in on a little secret... If you expect nothing, you'll never be disappointed.
Reply:do they know what you expect? are you clearly communicating what it is you need?





be grateful for any help you do get and look at the situation with an optimistic view, and you will find more joy simply in the fact that people care enough to help.
Reply:Jasper nailed it.


Expect the worst and Be SO GRATEFUL when they prove you wrong.


I guarantee you will have more help than ever before.


Cheers
Reply:This is an excellent question.





One becomes self sufficient.





One stops asking for help and starts giving it.
Reply:Sometimes the help is not what we want, but what we need. How does it affect you in the long run?
Reply:be careful who you ask and depend more on yourself
Reply:Grow a pair